So I'm sitting up late wondering... are there more people who are single through college or in a relationship?  It seems like most people are single or go through a series of relationships rather than one long steady one.  2 years ago I would have said that I was just going to date one more guy and that would be the next relationship which would hopefully last 4+ years and perhaps indefinitely.  But, I broke up with him for a series of reasons and now I have lost all interest in dating and it's been well over a year.  Was I just hurt too much to be able to recover from that loss? 

I feel that since my last relationship was relatively serious and didn't last very long makes me all the more cynical about relationships.  Even though he moved in a few short months and has traveled around the world with her, I'm still in nearly the same mindset as before and don't feel like I have moved on, although I'm not really pinning for him or anything.  I'm just disheartened and don't want to go for anyone.  It's like 1-2 years ago my heart was broken twice and when it broke the second time, it reopened the tear from my first bf and then just fell apart because of my second bf.  There's this gash in my heart and it feels as if it built a moat around it to protect it from ever being invaded again. 

What is the normal amount of time until you feel ready to date anyone again?  Before you are ready to date, do you have a few brief crushes but never care to follow them up?  Or perhaps there is a time in our life when we just are not in the right mindset to want to be in a relationship because we're scared or just lost interest? 

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